Sexual Intimacy and Family Life

This week we had the awkward conversation that everyone dreads having with their parents. But this time it wasn’t really awkward and everyone in the class got the opportunity to share their thoughts and feelings on anything we talked about. In all reality it was nice to be able to discuss and ask questions on a topic that is really sensitive to talk about. As I continue to write and talk about it today I hope to come across with the same sensitivity that was displayed in class. I really hope that as you look at everything I am about to talk about you will see and realize how every little piece and part of Marital intimacy always comes back to the Husband and Wife being together as one. 

The arousal and response cycle. As most of us know males tend to get excited easier and faster than females. For the males the cycle normally goes up with excitement then plateaus then goes up again with the climax. Males are only able to climax once while females can usually climax more than once. For females the excitement is usually a slower build up then a plateau then it shoots up for the climax and like I mentioned earlier the females can come down and go back up to climax multiple times. After a male has an organism things usually tend to get uncomfortable and start to hurt. Things that once brought greater pleasure will now bring serious pain and discomfort. In order for the female and male to be comfortable and enjoy this intimate moment together multiple things will need to happen. The first thing is that the male will need to slow down. Female anatomy is all internal and the first time will most likely be very painful and some bleeding may occur. Another reason why the male will need to slow down is because he is able to get excited and climax way before the female. He will need to practice and develop more self control so the female can enjoy herself as well. When you are having sex there are 3 different chemicals the are released the first one is called dopamine. Dopamine is released in the male and female brain which gives us all the good feelings during sex. The second one is called Serotonin helps with many different parts of sex and the third and final chemical is called Oxytocin which is a female only chemical. This chemical is also known as the cuddle hormone because it's really what bonds and attaches the females to the males. This is where it can get tricky having one night stands or more than one sexual partner. This hormone makes you attached to the other person so when the girl gets a attached and the the boy was just in it for sex it really messes with her emotionally. One thing that was brought up in class was this circle diagram. It showed that when women feel safe, close, and warm they want more of the sexual stuff but for men they want the sexual stuff to feel safe close and warm. This is hard because it goes opposite ways but I think it really reinforced the idea how Heavenly Father made us so that we would need each other. This also shows love and commitment for the other person has to compromise and love each other in such a sacred way. Another thing I thought was really interesting was the fact that males hit a high of sexual responses at age 18 and women hit a high of sexual response at an age of 35. This was funny to me because in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints we are sending out missionaries at age 18 or 19 so it’s kind of like Heavenly Father designed this perfect plan with a way for young men to develop and mature for 2 years and then come back and start seriously dating and preparing for marriage.