The Family Real Talk

This week we had the awkward conversation that everyone dreads having with their parents. But this time it wasn’t really awkward and everyone in the class got the opportunity to share their thoughts and feelings on anything we talked about. In all reality it was nice to be able to discuss and ask questions on a topic that is really sensitive to talk about. As I continue to write and talk about it today I hope to come across with the same sensitivity that was displayed in class. I really hope that as you look at everything I am about to talk about you will see and realize how every little piece and part of Marital intimacy always comes back to the Husband and Wife being together as one.  The arousal and response cycle. As most of us know males tend to get excited easier and faster than females. For the males the cycle normally goes up with excitement then plateaus then goes up again with the climax. Males are only able to climax once while females can usually climax more than once.

This week we talked about transitioning into marriage. I think that this was such an important lesson and conversation that we got to have as a class. I personally feel like the way people are getting into marriage is scary. I could just have major trust issues but how does one go from just meeting to getting engaged in as little as 3 months. Personally I think it's crazy to see how fast people get engaged especially up here at BYU- Idaho. I love being apart of this class but sometimes it is scary to hear about all of the ways marriages can fail just from the way the 2 people dated before marriage. I am scared but I am also so grateful that I can learn these things now and hopefully prevent bad things from happening in my own marriage. Let’s talk about the engagement. The engagement is so important. This is where the boy shows his commitment and devotion to the girl he is pursuing. People nowadays totally down play being engaged and it's so sad. I personally have a roommat

I really enjoyed what we talked about in class this week because I am a freshman in college and all of the things we talked about apply to me right now. Sometimes in class we talk about things that don’t exactly apply to me right now so I don’t have a chance to put it into practice or really try it out. I loved everything we talked about this week and I hope you will too!  This week we talked about preparing for marriage or in other words dating. Now dating at BYU- Idaho is huge as a lot of people who know LDS culture would know. You see a lot of quick young marriages and lots of dating. Which in my opinion is great! I love getting to know new people and making new friends! What was interesting was my professor started out class and said that in his professional experience 90% of the time he can identify couples marital issues by the way they dated. I found this super interesting! If you can already tell the way someone is going to have issues later on than that means we can change

On Tuesday in class this week we talked about something that is a very sensitive subject for a lot of different people. We began by talking about the different gender roles that we have in society. Women tend to have more characteristics of nurturing, cooperative, relational, and better communication skills. Men tend to be more competitive, aggressive, action oriented, and more body strength. We naturally have these different gender roles from birth. These male roles force men to feel like they have to provide, preside, and protect. Naturally as children we tend to be more drawn to the toy of our gender. Boys like trucks and swords. Girls like dolls and flowers. We naturally do this as kids without our parents doing or saying anything. Every now and then we have boys who will want to play with dolls and girls who will want to play with trucks. This is totally normal. Let your children try and experience different things without making assumptions about them and without forcing them to

What I want to talk about today is the different family structures we have here in America. Our family structure has so much to do with our culture and the traditions of our family. We decided that for our class, culture is defined as a shared attitude with common values, goals, and practices. In each of our families we have a culture that is accepted among us. Sometimes we have things that disrupt that culture like when a sibling gets married and they try to bring in this outsider that has their own culture. Within our families we have these cultures that could also be known as traditions. When I hear the words traditions I immediately think of good and happy traditions in my family but what we brought up in class is that sometimes those traditions aren’t always good and happy and sometimes those things can actually be really negative cultural things we are doing that we don’t quite know how to break the chain. This was super interesting to me. Like maybe in your culture it is a nor